You have lost yourself to someone who did not deserve you. A relationship that diminished you, controlled you, or hurt you in ways you are still gentle with yourself about.
You are carrying grief, shame, or anger that has nowhere to go. You have been surviving, not living, for longer than you can remember.
You have tried to rebuild before and could not quite get there alone. You need someone who will tell you the truth without flinching.
You are ready. Even if ready feels terrifying. Even if you are reading this at 2am in the only quiet moment you have had all day.
I am a woman who has been where you are.
At 21 I made the most radical decision of my life. I packed up everything, left everyone I knew, and moved across the world alone. No safety net. No support network. Just a woman who knew she needed to find herself and was willing to go that far to do it.
I found her. I stopped the things that were destroying me. I built a life from scratch and came home a completely different woman.
Within weeks of arriving home I lost someone I loved deeply. Grief is a dangerous thing when you have no armour left. It sent me straight into the arms of someone who would spend years dismantling what little of me remained.
I know what it is to be hurt by someone who was supposed to love you. I know the shame of staying. I know the guilt of leaving. I know the long, quiet work of rebuilding yourself when you finally do.
But I got out. And I rebuilt. Fully, and with grace.
I am not a psychologist or a counsellor. I am a Lived Experience Mentor and a published author — a woman who has done the work, survived the unsurvivable, and rebuilt with grace. And I will walk alongside you while you do the same.